Why do we need Self belief?
Self-belief is an important part of all of our lives. Having a lack of belief in ourselves can really hold us back and lead to that 'if only i had...' mentality.
If others constantly tell us we can't do something and place limitations on us, then over time, we will come to think that what they are saying is true. Sometimes we also do this to ourselves. Lets us the example of 'i can't do this diet, it's too hard. Maybe i'm supposed to be fat'
Self-doubt plays a HUGE part in our slimming journey. Lets face it, if we were successful at managing our weight, we wouldn't be trying to lose it in the first place so we are already starting with that on our shoulders.
I'll let you into a little secret. When i went to start my company, i had lots of limiting beliefs and some of the common thoughts i had were
Can i do this?
What if i fail?
What's the point? there's already companies out there doing what i want to do
If i'd listened to those thoughts, then i wouldn't be here writing this blog post now. Instead I chose to have a little belief in myself and the ideas that I had.
So lets look at 3 simple steps and activities you can do to help with your own personal self belief
REMEMBER.... Like anything in life, beliefs & limitations are learnt and can be changed.
ACTIVITY: Look at what beliefs you have about you, your body image, your personality & your weight. Re-examine those beliefs and see which of those beliefs may be holding you back.
2. Notice that inner voice...We all have an internal voice. It's like a dialogue that no-one else hears. Sometimes, it can be quite unhelpful. It's our way of trying to rationalise things to ourselves.
It's easy for us as humans to be drawn to and listen to the negativity surrounding us. Remember earlier, i talked about starting my business and having limiting thoughts? well alot of that was my internal dialogue.
That internal dialogue is actually a collection of people we have met throughout our lives. From that school teacher who may have put a negative remark on your school report to your parent who told you, you were lazy and to buck your ideas up. Over time, we have subconsciously taken those remarks and made them our own. We believe this internal dialogue to be true and we almost always listen to it.
REMEMBER: You can choose to ignore that internal dialogue
ACTIVITY: Take some time to really notice those thoughts that you have. Those thoughts can really take hold of us and may take us away from what we want. Next time you have one of those negative thoughts, challenge it. Find out where it's really coming from.
3. Be your own cheerleader...Life really is too short to spend it hiding away in fear of ‘failure’ In fact I detest that word ‘failure’ so lets scrub that from our internal dialogue shall we?
Self doubt is common and happens to us all. Next time you feel a bout of self doubt happening, why not be your own cheerleader and spur yourself on?
Self doubt comes from our emotions and usually isn’t logical at all. So let your inner cheerleader take over.
You are going to a job interview. You can either let self doubt creep in – ‘what’s the point, you won’t get this job anyway’ ‘there’s better candidates than you’ blah, blah, blah
you can let your inner cheerleader give you a little prep talk.
‘ok, you’ve got this. You are qualified for this job, you’ve done your homework on the company and being anxious means that you care. Go in there and give it your all’
Activity: Think of someone you admire. Their qualities. Now look at those qualities and why those qualities came to your mind. Imagine your inner cheerleader having those qualities. Talk to yourself as though you were that person. What would they say to you?
Alleyne is a qualified weight management counsellor, author and columnist.
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