A client sat in my office last week, looked me in the eye and said 'maybe I should accept that I'm just supposed to be fat'
I hear this quite alot from my clients. They seem to have tried everything that they are on the verge of giving up, ready to submit to their fate of obesity and body dislike but I'm here to tell you that IT REALLY DOESN'T HAVE TO BE THIS WAY!
There are so many reasons why you aren't losing weight and today I'm going to go through my top 7 reasons for you.
You lack motivation
In order to get started with something, we need that motivation. You know that little OOMPH, that get up and go, that metaphorical knock on the head to make us flick that switch. Motivation is something we are born with and we utilise it in different ways. Some of us are motivated by external forces and others by internal. You need to discover what motivates you and how you are programmed to best utilise that inner strength i know you have.
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there are some quick fire ways in which you can easily get yourself motivated.
Some slimmers use an outfit to give them that burst of motivation, others use a holiday or special occasion. For me? I use people. I have a list of people I follow on social media. They are positive in their daily approach and I use their upbeat energy to give me that burst of 'hell yeah I can do this' mentality
You don't truly believe in yourself
If you've dieted and always found yourself with the same results, it's likely that you are stuck in that negative yo-yo trap I see so many slimmers get into. You lose weight, you gain it again so you try to lose it only for it to find you. Depressing isn't it? The truth is, that every time you go through that negative yo-yo cycle, you carry negative messages relating to your previous weight loss attempt. By carrying those negative messages, you burden yourself with your 'failed' previous attempts. You store them in your subconscious (a bit like a bank deposit account) and you withdraw the feelings when you feel like it just as a reminder of what a 'failure' you really are when you next try.
Your thoughts really do determine your reality and if you only think of yourself in a negative way, chances are that you won't achieve the results you are seeking.
You eat emotionally
Food is readily available - special occasions, happy times, sad times. It's there as a reward or as a comfort. It's no wonder that when faced with certain situations in our life, we turn to food!
It's not your fault thought as we food was often used as a reward, comfort or punishment when we were children. Often we carry these messages through to our adulthood and instead of using food as it should be (body fuel) we use it for much more. Changing your attitude to emotional eating isn't a quick fix BUT it can be changed with support and coaching. We have a fantastic e-guide called 'beating emotional eating'. This e-guide gives you more in-depth information about emotions and can help steer you into the right direction so you start to recognise your trigger emotions.
You really aren't trying
You say you're on a diet and losing weight but you choose the most calorific item on the menu and joke that diet starts again tomorrow.
You want to lose weight but you find all the reasons under the sun as to why you can't do it right now.
This is what we call a 'MIS-MATCH' it's where you say one thing but act on a completely different, contradictory behaviour. It's actually something I see alot.
We are all great at procrastinating, making excuses or telling ourselves fibs BUT who are we kidding. Liklehood is that others can see it for what it is so it's best to cut the Cr*p and be honest with yourself.
Are you giving it your 100% attention and devotion?
You aren't exercising
You groan, I groan, everyone groans. Yes - exercise. Sorry to say this but exercise really is an important factor in our weight management. Over the years, I have successfully lost weight and I've been just as successful at gaining it again but the times I have managed to keep my weight stable is by exercising. Find an exercise you like (for me it's swimming and kettlebell), cut the excuses, make it a priority.
You are secretly picking at food
We open the food cupboards or fridge, we have a little nibble and close the door. An hour later we have forgotten that nibble we had earlier yet we wonder why the scales keep going up!
Keep a food diary. Write down exactly what you eat and drink in a day and review it weekly. Look at what changes you could make and implement them.
You aren't drinking enough
When our bodies are de-hydrated, they can send signals to our brain that we are hungry so off we go to fill our bodies with food when really it's water we're crying out for. When you wake up, have a drink of water and set yourself reminders to have regular drinks through out the day. 20 minutes before you sit down for a meal, have a glass of water. This will fill your stomach and in turn will help you eat less.
Alleyne is a qualified weight management counsellor, author and columnist.
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